On the other hand, if the evidence indicates your child was bullying, discuss the incident with your child. Ask your child to tell you clearly and specifically what happened. If there was a trigger for the bullying, explore it with your child. It may reveal a deeper issue that may be causing your child to act out.
When you talk with your child, be clear about the behavior that you’re addressing.
“It’s best to avoid blanket instructions like, ‘don’t bully,’” says Dr. Carter. “Instead, be specific. Say things like, ‘I won’t tolerate you hitting other children,’ or ‘it’s not acceptable to let your anger lead to name-calling.’”